The 7 Best and Worst Things About Being an Only Child

1 – You get your way. Simply because you have no competition.

1 – You don’t have anyone to compete with. Competition is a good skill to have!

2 – You get your own bedroom.

5 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Know About Emotional Baggage

Just a few things that I think would have been helpful for my parents to hear way back in the 1990’s!

1 – Sometimes your kid will say, “you aren’t my real parents!” simply because they know it gets to you.

2 – There is no shame in bringing in reinforcements.

Is someone going to tell her the truth about her baby?

The message in the above photo was posted by an adoption page with the caption, “We want to talk to you! You can chat with us anytime.”

I read about adoption constantly and I look for pieces from all different angles.  I have found that there are groups of birth mothers who feel like they were duped in to putting their child up for adoption.  I must admit that initially I was not quite sure what they meant by being tricked in to giving their child up for adoption……then I saw this.

Embracing Rejection

“Adoption is love not rejection.”

I came across this and couldn’t pass it by.

I understand the sentiment of this quote.

I would bet a million dollars that it was written by a parent.

5 Reasons Adopted People Won’t Mention That They are Adopted

1. You might ask who our “real” parents are and it is exhausting to explain that our adoptive parents are our real parents. It’s kind of like explaining where babies come from.

Love always, The Kid You Gave Away

Dear Birth Parents,

How are you? I miss you. I can only hope that you miss me too. Do you wonder what I’m doing? I wonder what you are doing everyday. I wonder what your personalities are like and what traits of mine are similar to yours. I have this goofy laugh that I’m sure….

The Life of That Never-Adopted Girl – An Empathic Experiment

Have you ever imagined yourself in a different life circumstance? Different people, different job, different place, different time? I know you have.

I took a moment to do that today.

I am adopted, but what if my fate had been different?

Either Brave Enough or Crazy Enough – The Piece That Started It All

 This is near and dear to my heart, the piece that started it all.  This is my chapel talk from my senior year at Webb.  The day I gave this talk was the first time since the day of my birth that I had my mom, dad, birth mom and birth dad all in one place at the same time.  That will probably never happen again.  Well….maybe on my wedding day if I’m lucky.

 I wrote this when I was 17, in the middle of a mental breakdown, getting ready to graduate, and finally either brave enough or crazy enough to vocalize my feelings about being adopted in front of all 4 participating parental parties.  This is when I seriously started working on understanding myself in terms of being an adopted kid and started to work towards understanding other adopted kids and adoption situations.    

So, here it is….

CHAPEL TALK (2007)

One Big Difference Between Your Adopted Kid and Your Biological Kid

Get us day 1 or year 5, we come with bags packed. Mine is pink and glittery, with some dents, gashes and stains.

I carry it with me everywhere  I go :).  

Adoptive parents are the best when they help you unpack, see what you’ve got, organize and rearrange it and lighten the load.

Sometimes that takes a while.  But it’s worth the time.

xoxo

LOVE always and forever,

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WE AREN’T ALL SEX CRIMINALS IN THE MAKING

“They lied to us’: Seattle parents sue state after adopted son molests siblings, claim social services never disclosed previous incidents”

You know what sucks about this? Beyond this child being a sexual predator at 12 years old, beyond that this child needs serious clinical help, beyond his victims, beyond the possible trauma he experienced that motivated such behavior.