Realizing Your Self Worth


“Your outlook on life is a direct reflection on how much you like yourself.” ~ Lululemon

“My existence on this earth is pointless.”

That thought crossed my mind every night before I fell asleep.

It had been several months since I graduated from high school and I had no idea what I was going to do with my life. My future plans were falling to pieces, and everyone around me kept telling me that I needed to start accomplishing things that I had not yet accomplished. Continue reading

A Quick Thought on Relinquished Kids Killing Themselves

Adopted kids have an increased chance of early death.  Is this because of the stress?  Heartache?  Do these things take such a toll on us that we live shorter lives?

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5 Superstar Celebrity Moms Who Adopted (#2)


Sandra Bullock


Best known for: Acting in movies such as The Proposal, Speed, and Miss Congeniality; winning an Oscar for Best Actress for her role in The Blind Side; and a very public split from husband andMonster Garage host Jesse James.

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5 Celebrity Moms Who Adopted (#1)


Jillian Michaels


Best known for: Training contestants on The Biggest Loser reality show to help them get in shape and lose weight. Michaels has written books, starred in fitness DVDs, and created video games for the Wii and Xbox that all focus on helping people live a healthier life.

Adopted child: Daughter Lukensia

Adoption details: Michaels first announced her plans to adopt in December 2010 when she revealed that she would be leaving The Biggest Loser. After months of searching, she met her child during a trip to Haiti. “I went over to visit orphanages and I ended up falling in love with this little girl,” she told Access Hollywood in December 2011. “By the grace of God, I got matched up with her.” Michaels was finally able to bring 2-year-old Lukensia home from the Caribbean nation in May 2012.  Continue reading

Why Tove Lo’s “Habits” Totally Applies to Adopted Kids

 “Habits” – Tove Lo
You’re gone and I gotta stay
High all the time
To keep you off my mind
Ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh
High all the time
To keep you off my mind
Ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh
Spend my days locked in a haze
Trying to forget you babe
I fall back down
Gotta stay high all my life
To forget I’m missing you
Ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh

Adopted kids have issues. Believe me, I definitely have my fair share. Maybe I will tell you about them later.   One of our issues is a predisposition to substance abuse. We are at a higher risk for drug addiction and alcoholism than are conventional children. Is this because of our unaddressed emotional issues about being put up for adoption? Is it because a lot of people with substance abuse problems put their kids up for adoption? I’m not sure. It’s probably a combination of the


I can see how substance abuse is an escape from the emotional pain adopted kids experience. I have been in therapy for 13 years, so I have done a lot of work to understand my adoption issues. My parents were very proactive. But if I hadn’t been in therapy I might be a heroin addict by now!   Knowing my parents I would actually probably be a heroin addict doing my 3rd stint in rehab by now…maybe an alcoholic.

I digress…

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You Have to Play to Win



You meet someone

You have some fun

You’re sure they’ll never stay

When they’re near

You keep the cheer

It keeps your sad at bay

If you let them in, It would all begin

The fear, the doubt, dismay

But what if they want to play?

What’s the name of the game?

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